One trustee of Common Knowledge Trust answered a question that I continue to pose ... 'Why is there so much resistance to the concept of The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better®
This is her response. She has 3 Pink Kit babies out of 4 kids. She's a woman of deep faith and supports the efforts of CKT because of the universal skills found in The Pink Kit.
She sent me this Dec 2, 2009 in response to the email I sent her about this blog, my continued frustration and curiosity as to 'what needs to be said' in order to change the 'don't know there is a need to know'. There is SO much resistance ... but actually we don't call it 'resistance' so much as 'reasonable reasons why not.'
There is a huge difference between 'resistance' which usually comes from knowing something but choosing not to ... resistance is natural. However, if a person doesn't even know they need to know then they don't have any interest in knowing or they believe it's just a belief or they believe it's a repetition of whatever is already known ... in other words ... 'reasonable reasons why not'.
If we get past the 'don't know there's a need to know' and can get to 'ok there's a need to know but what do I need to do' then a new layer of 'reasonable reasons why not' come into play.
Below is what this woman who had one baby not knowing she needed to know. Found the skills one week before her 2nd baby and totally invested time and energy to learn the skills with her husband because she realized that this was the 'missing' information she sort of knew was missing but never found so decided she wasn't right and all there was to know was what was already known.
She knew these skills filled that place inside 'is there something missing?'
'You must remember that our market (pregnant people) are the most distracted/self consumed people on planet earth around their baby having time. Getting their attention, from a distance, even with birth information is difficult aye. I still think the biggest obstacle to this information is that people want to be looked after, paid attention to as someone special. To take ownership of our entire birth process (which is what we are advocating) eliminates that attention that so many need and so we find only a few. I know that from my experience it was this attention that took away my power, I wanted to be free of it, take ownership of my childrens births and so I embraced the birthing knowledge in the Pink kit.
During the rehash (This is the re-doing of the resource we hope you will help us with) that C. and I did, we broke down the information/skills into bite sizes that people could choose when they needed, or at a pace that they could cope with. It was mainly about the processing of information at a managable rate in what ever time people have available to them before their child is born.
There is a lot of mention of how they will feel or what the outcome of taking in or integrating this knowledge will do for them. ie ownership, being proud of the way we managed our birth.
Question; Does the independence produced by the taking in and use of this knowledge leave people feeling afraid on a level they are not conscious of?
Do people on a subconscious level interpret the taking full ownership of ones birth as meaning there will be an absence of attention/love, care and nurturing from many outside sources (other people)?
Maybe we need stepping stones of another kind for people to travel over, stepping stones.
I can talk about and talk about The Pink Kit, the most forcefull thing I say these days to any pregnant people is "Have you heard of the pink kit" Yes or No. I then say "www.birthingbetter. go have a look, there s everything you need to know about getting you baby out...and more'.
Interesting that one of the 'reasonable reasons why not' that will come from reading the above letter is the phrase 'taking full ownership of one's birth' .... To too many people that phrase is interpreted as 'do the birth myself ... NO WAY'.
This is why we know that people don't even know they need to know and that knowing isn't about 'doing the birth yourself' or about any type of birth ... it's about the fact that you are pregnant and will give birth therefore as a parent-to-be you need to work with your baby as it works to be born.
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