Feb 4, 2010
I'm in the process of learning how to make videos. Here's the first Pink Kit video I've made.
It's a video for women who want to have a vaginal birth after a Cesarean (VBAC) yet end up with a non-laboring Cesarean.
Some people think this is a very small group ... but it's huge!
It's so very important that these women understand that pregnancy is the time to get connected to their coming birth no matter what it's going to be and no matter how they feel about the birth situation.
Why is that important? Simple! How can we bring a child up with a belief that that child's birth makes us less because of how he/she was born. Or why would we want to burden our children with a belief their birth wasn't just fine. They don't think about 'the birth' they just think about being born and who they are.
By using Pink Kit skills these women can remain connected, engaged, involved and totally enjoy being pregnant.
Then they learn the skills to use during their baby's birth even if it's a surgical one.
We have the power to change birth. You can help by donating to the cause that Common Knowledge Trust carries.
go to http://www.birthingbetter.com
Friday, 5 February 2010
Monday, 28 December 2009
Working away
28 December 2009
I'm steadily working through the video tutorials for the software program I am learning to use to make these YouTube videos. Thankfully they are very clear.
Besides they reassure me that I can do these videos with voice overs rather than have me be seen.
Why won't I want to be seen? Actually when someone looks at another person talking they mostly believe what they are saying is their opinion. When there is a voice over most people hear that as 'script'.
Because I'm about to do so many short videos it's important that the people who watch them will identify with them rather than have an opinion about me.
Also Common Knowledge Trust holds the birth stories of thousands of families. By doing a voice over for each one I can talk about 'us or we' rather than 'you'.
This is of course very delicate. For a woman who would love to have a vaginal birth after a Caesarean yet can't ... for whatever reason ... having others know how she feels makes her feel better. I believe I can achieve this with the voice over where I can always use the 'we or us'.
I'm also collecting images from Google to put into these videos.
Actually I'm feeling pretty good at the moment.
Have a great holiday season and New Year.
I'm steadily working through the video tutorials for the software program I am learning to use to make these YouTube videos. Thankfully they are very clear.
Besides they reassure me that I can do these videos with voice overs rather than have me be seen.
Why won't I want to be seen? Actually when someone looks at another person talking they mostly believe what they are saying is their opinion. When there is a voice over most people hear that as 'script'.
Because I'm about to do so many short videos it's important that the people who watch them will identify with them rather than have an opinion about me.
Also Common Knowledge Trust holds the birth stories of thousands of families. By doing a voice over for each one I can talk about 'us or we' rather than 'you'.
This is of course very delicate. For a woman who would love to have a vaginal birth after a Caesarean yet can't ... for whatever reason ... having others know how she feels makes her feel better. I believe I can achieve this with the voice over where I can always use the 'we or us'.
I'm also collecting images from Google to put into these videos.
Actually I'm feeling pretty good at the moment.
Have a great holiday season and New Year.
Friday, 25 December 2009
Time of fruition
Dec 25 2009
This blog is going to follow along the developments of The Pink Kit re-do.
The other day I was directed to a website offering a beauty looking online childbirth course and I freaked. Some of the content sounded as though it originated with The Pink Kit.
Then I got pissed ... I am not going to my grave without these skills become widely known and used.
Then I got determined ... so I made the decision to:
What's stopping me exactly?
I don't have the skills to make the videos. Then this lovely man has offered to be my mentor. He downloaded a bunch of video tutorials that I'm working through now.
As I was working through the tutorials I realized that I didn't have the skills to write the content.
It's not that I can't write something but how do I write something distinct about every variability?
For example, I want to do a 2 1/2 minute video for pregnant women who want to have a vaginal birth after a Caesarean but will end up with a non-labouring delivery.
How do I clearly and concisely explain that it's a pleasure to prepare your body to give birth, gives you something to do during the last few months of pregnancy, gets you and your partner working together and you feel closer to your baby?
How do I explain that using your skills on the way to hospital, while being prepped, during the surgery and in recovery makes you feel so much more connected?
And how does that sound differently if I were talking to a first time father planning a home birth?
So I recognize that I lack content and technical abilities. Now you can understand why I'm always looking for help from others like yourself. Obviously this blog with remain on the Internet for years so my asking for help will still be shouted after I've passed. But if you're reading this at the beginning of 2010 I need your help.
Without your help I'll continue because after being freaked and pissed I got determined.
Within 6 months I will have put up 30 or more short videos and I'll have figured out a way to gain the skills. Interestingly the four people who are helping me are young men. Two have not had children, one has and the other is expecting and using The Pink Kit skills now.
What else did I decide to do?
Instead of trying to re-do this whole resource with the hopes of picking up a distributor so it can be found in bookstores, I've decided to just finish the 29 rewritten segments and make them each a wee book. These will be put online and sold.
Soon people will be able to download ebooks with long titles like: Pain and your Pink Kit Method for birthing better® skills or A father-to-be's first baby and your Pink Kit skills.
These 29 resources will then be put into talking books and hopefully translated by friends.
I'm totally determined to keep working with the Internet to find a way to spread the concept of being skilled to give birth just because you're pregnant and you will give birth so why not be skilled and prepared.
This blog is going to follow along the developments of The Pink Kit re-do.
The other day I was directed to a website offering a beauty looking online childbirth course and I freaked. Some of the content sounded as though it originated with The Pink Kit.
Then I got pissed ... I am not going to my grave without these skills become widely known and used.
Then I got determined ... so I made the decision to:
- Learn how to make really good, short videos for YouTube and iPods
- Get the 29 segments finished of the rewrite that I've completed through 2nd draft and get these online as separate Pink Kit resources.
What's stopping me exactly?
I don't have the skills to make the videos. Then this lovely man has offered to be my mentor. He downloaded a bunch of video tutorials that I'm working through now.
As I was working through the tutorials I realized that I didn't have the skills to write the content.
It's not that I can't write something but how do I write something distinct about every variability?
For example, I want to do a 2 1/2 minute video for pregnant women who want to have a vaginal birth after a Caesarean but will end up with a non-labouring delivery.
How do I clearly and concisely explain that it's a pleasure to prepare your body to give birth, gives you something to do during the last few months of pregnancy, gets you and your partner working together and you feel closer to your baby?
How do I explain that using your skills on the way to hospital, while being prepped, during the surgery and in recovery makes you feel so much more connected?
And how does that sound differently if I were talking to a first time father planning a home birth?
So I recognize that I lack content and technical abilities. Now you can understand why I'm always looking for help from others like yourself. Obviously this blog with remain on the Internet for years so my asking for help will still be shouted after I've passed. But if you're reading this at the beginning of 2010 I need your help.
Without your help I'll continue because after being freaked and pissed I got determined.
Within 6 months I will have put up 30 or more short videos and I'll have figured out a way to gain the skills. Interestingly the four people who are helping me are young men. Two have not had children, one has and the other is expecting and using The Pink Kit skills now.
What else did I decide to do?
Instead of trying to re-do this whole resource with the hopes of picking up a distributor so it can be found in bookstores, I've decided to just finish the 29 rewritten segments and make them each a wee book. These will be put online and sold.
Soon people will be able to download ebooks with long titles like: Pain and your Pink Kit Method for birthing better® skills or A father-to-be's first baby and your Pink Kit skills.
These 29 resources will then be put into talking books and hopefully translated by friends.
I'm totally determined to keep working with the Internet to find a way to spread the concept of being skilled to give birth just because you're pregnant and you will give birth so why not be skilled and prepared.
Wednesday, 16 December 2009
Birth providers see lots of births
16 December 2009
Here's the reality ... it's really hard to talk to pregnant women about what they need because they have not been around lots of births. Birth and death ... two hidden transitions of life. Death is more common now with hospice however having birth centers (which would sort of be an analogy) still does not involve the whole family.
Rarely do families want lots of friends and family with them during the birthing process. This hinders the ability for our societies to change what is expected of expectant parents!
When my New Zealand friend, Andrea, who works as a midwife talks about births ... these are also 'birth stories' but told from the viewpoint of a birth professional ... she will talk about what she sees.
What she sees is both how the woman is coping or handling the situation, what the father is doing and what is happening with the birth process and need for medical care. By the way, having increased medical care does not change how the woman is managing or what the father is doing! This is where the viewpoint of a birth professional is so very different from the perceptive of the mother and father.
For example, within the Natural Birth Movement there is a belief that 'birth should be natural unless there is a real medical need'. But what does that mean in how women and men deal with the process. In other words, increased foetal monitoring doesn't stop a woman from using relaxation or good breathing skills nor does having an internal foetal monitor stop a father from helping the woman cope with increased pain of having to remain in bed. Nor does it stop both of them from rearranging the pillows so the woman is more comfortable and can partly lie on one side or another.
Just because there is heaps of medical care any birthing woman and man can use all The Pink Kit skills as needed.
So birth professionals see heaps of births. They know that every woman will eventually 'get through' the birth ... one way or another! That means the birth professionals are trying to prevent a woman from perceiving her experience as 'suffering' (which is a word used to indicate a woman is not coping well ... which is another way of saying she does not have the right skills or she is not using the skills she has been taught) and to safeguard the wellbeing of the woman and baby.
Most birth professionals do not believe ... rightly so ... that how a woman copes with the process or how a father helps is their business. It isn't. It's our business as society! Presently, our societal attitudes of childbirth actually block any consideration for having skills be a natural part of pregnancy and birth preparation and management. How sad that is.
Sometimes I do have a sadness. In the past 40 years since The Pink Kit evolved there have been millions of families who have given birth without these skills. In New Zealand alone, since 2001 when the original Pink Kit resource was launched there have been almost 500,000 births. Andrea only attends 60-80/year. This means those families who she has encouraged, inspired, required, educated, demanded or insisted to self learn the skills are a unique few compared to what families in New Zealand could experience.
And New Zealand has a midwifery model of care and you would think that women who work as midwives would want to work with skilled families rather than work with women who are 'getting through' the birth and most fathers standing around or not really knowing what to do. But women who work as midwives in New Zealand have been strong advocates of 'birth is natural and there is nothing a woman needs to know.'
So birth providers see lots of births. That means they are actually ok with women moaning and groaning their way through birth and they are ok, even if irritated, with the lack of skills of fathers-to-be. Most birth professionals will praise women for just getting through birth ... which is right to do ... it's monumental enough to just get through labor. However, what if more families actually skillfully worked with their baby's efforts to be born whether having a natural or medical birth? What would birth providers see? More families being skilled! Won't that be nice for everyone?
From the view point of families having babies. Most just don't know what birth is like therefore they have no idea that birth is about coping, managing, dealing with, working with a dynamic process. Most families, if they ever see a birth video, will see 'the birth' ... the last 20 minutes or so. The Birth is usually the easiest part! It's the labor that families need to work with. And few birth videos show the hours and hours of labor ... people would be bored! That's sad in a way.
But I understand the boredom because it's very boring to be with a woman who is not coping. There's not much anyone can do except 'coach' her but that is absolutely exhausting if you have to do it again and again for hours and hours .... particularly with women who don't respond to coaching.
Sadly in the Natural Birth Movement there is a viewpoint that 'women shouldn't be coached, they should be left alone to discover birth themselves'. Wow, do we really want other women to just face this dynamic experience without any skills, knowledge or help? That's a profound societal viewpoint. If we want women to be left alone then they should be informed that no one will help them and they are just on their own.
In fact this is what we didn't want when we demanded our husbands be present. We did not want to be left alone because we knew we weren't skilled and at least we wanted someone with us. But then Lamaze was the class that gave both of us skills and for years families used Lamaze in whatever birth they had.
But Lamaze also promoted 'natural birth' so often people stopped using the skills if more medical care was needed or felt they didn't work. The Pink Kit skills work in every birth because every birth should be a skillful experience.
Here's how you can help:
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
Here's the reality ... it's really hard to talk to pregnant women about what they need because they have not been around lots of births. Birth and death ... two hidden transitions of life. Death is more common now with hospice however having birth centers (which would sort of be an analogy) still does not involve the whole family.
Rarely do families want lots of friends and family with them during the birthing process. This hinders the ability for our societies to change what is expected of expectant parents!
When my New Zealand friend, Andrea, who works as a midwife talks about births ... these are also 'birth stories' but told from the viewpoint of a birth professional ... she will talk about what she sees.
What she sees is both how the woman is coping or handling the situation, what the father is doing and what is happening with the birth process and need for medical care. By the way, having increased medical care does not change how the woman is managing or what the father is doing! This is where the viewpoint of a birth professional is so very different from the perceptive of the mother and father.
For example, within the Natural Birth Movement there is a belief that 'birth should be natural unless there is a real medical need'. But what does that mean in how women and men deal with the process. In other words, increased foetal monitoring doesn't stop a woman from using relaxation or good breathing skills nor does having an internal foetal monitor stop a father from helping the woman cope with increased pain of having to remain in bed. Nor does it stop both of them from rearranging the pillows so the woman is more comfortable and can partly lie on one side or another.
Just because there is heaps of medical care any birthing woman and man can use all The Pink Kit skills as needed.
So birth professionals see heaps of births. They know that every woman will eventually 'get through' the birth ... one way or another! That means the birth professionals are trying to prevent a woman from perceiving her experience as 'suffering' (which is a word used to indicate a woman is not coping well ... which is another way of saying she does not have the right skills or she is not using the skills she has been taught) and to safeguard the wellbeing of the woman and baby.
Most birth professionals do not believe ... rightly so ... that how a woman copes with the process or how a father helps is their business. It isn't. It's our business as society! Presently, our societal attitudes of childbirth actually block any consideration for having skills be a natural part of pregnancy and birth preparation and management. How sad that is.
Sometimes I do have a sadness. In the past 40 years since The Pink Kit evolved there have been millions of families who have given birth without these skills. In New Zealand alone, since 2001 when the original Pink Kit resource was launched there have been almost 500,000 births. Andrea only attends 60-80/year. This means those families who she has encouraged, inspired, required, educated, demanded or insisted to self learn the skills are a unique few compared to what families in New Zealand could experience.
And New Zealand has a midwifery model of care and you would think that women who work as midwives would want to work with skilled families rather than work with women who are 'getting through' the birth and most fathers standing around or not really knowing what to do. But women who work as midwives in New Zealand have been strong advocates of 'birth is natural and there is nothing a woman needs to know.'
So birth providers see lots of births. That means they are actually ok with women moaning and groaning their way through birth and they are ok, even if irritated, with the lack of skills of fathers-to-be. Most birth professionals will praise women for just getting through birth ... which is right to do ... it's monumental enough to just get through labor. However, what if more families actually skillfully worked with their baby's efforts to be born whether having a natural or medical birth? What would birth providers see? More families being skilled! Won't that be nice for everyone?
From the view point of families having babies. Most just don't know what birth is like therefore they have no idea that birth is about coping, managing, dealing with, working with a dynamic process. Most families, if they ever see a birth video, will see 'the birth' ... the last 20 minutes or so. The Birth is usually the easiest part! It's the labor that families need to work with. And few birth videos show the hours and hours of labor ... people would be bored! That's sad in a way.
But I understand the boredom because it's very boring to be with a woman who is not coping. There's not much anyone can do except 'coach' her but that is absolutely exhausting if you have to do it again and again for hours and hours .... particularly with women who don't respond to coaching.
Sadly in the Natural Birth Movement there is a viewpoint that 'women shouldn't be coached, they should be left alone to discover birth themselves'. Wow, do we really want other women to just face this dynamic experience without any skills, knowledge or help? That's a profound societal viewpoint. If we want women to be left alone then they should be informed that no one will help them and they are just on their own.
In fact this is what we didn't want when we demanded our husbands be present. We did not want to be left alone because we knew we weren't skilled and at least we wanted someone with us. But then Lamaze was the class that gave both of us skills and for years families used Lamaze in whatever birth they had.
But Lamaze also promoted 'natural birth' so often people stopped using the skills if more medical care was needed or felt they didn't work. The Pink Kit skills work in every birth because every birth should be a skillful experience.
Here's how you can help:
- Donate Look at the bottom of the right menu
- Editing
- Lay-out
- Design
- Illustration
- Computer animation
- Publishing
- Translation
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
Monday, 14 December 2009
Can midwives change birth?
14 December 2009
I had a talk with a friend of mine who works as a midwife in New Zealand the other day. She requires (yes, requires) her clients to use (not just look at) The Pink Kit Package. Now there's a long story about our relationship that you need to know.
When many of us were having babies way back then (I lived in the US then) there was a movement to shift birth away from the modern maternity system into a direct entry midwifery care model. There was a belief that the statistics or high rates of 'medical intervention' was due to over aggressive doctors who were too keen to intervene and midwives would permit women to birth naturally without intervention.
I happened to immigrate to New Zealand in 1995, knowing absolutely nothing about birth politics in that country. Since I've never been involved with the 'politics' surrounding birth I didn't investigate either.
Certainly from the 1970s when The Pink Kit was evolving there were many families who also hired midwives and had home births. Was there fewer 'natural' births? Yes and no. There was much fewer standards of care that included some assessments, monitoring and procedures yet there were not more women who knew how to labor well or men who knew how to help the woman manage well. And there certainly were many problems unseen that then required women to head to hospital.
Over the years I've heard tens of thousands of stories about childbirth ... many from women planning, attempting and having home births as well as those who birthed in hospital with midwifery care as well as more conventional hospital + obstetrician. Just having a home birth or working with a midwife does not change either 'outcomes' nor how women feel about how they coped with the experience.
Having a home birth and working with a midwife does change how women feel about their surroundings and the attention they receive during pregnancy ... although not always at the birth ... nor always after the birth. Most women love having a midwife during pregnancy. A significant number are disappointed with the relationship during the birth or after the birth.
However, this entry is not about home births or midwives ... it's about the New Zealand midwife and her relationship to The Pink Kit and her clients.
When I arrived in NZ in 1995, women who work as midwives had become Lead Maternity Carers in 1990. There was great hope in the midwifery community that this change would create more natural births ... preferably at home. When I arrived the hope was high.
However, by 2000 the c/s rate had almost doubled to 28% or greater and home births were rare. New Zealand midwives were not interested in the concept of growing a skilled birthing population. They strongly advocated, as they do today, that birth is natural and women don't need to be taught how to birth. This is 180 degrees from the concept of The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better® skills that have been used by multitudes of expectant families because they believed they should be skilled!
My friend, A ..., finally became involved with The PK ... mostly because she was totally exhausted by seeing so many expectant parents just not have a clue, rely on her too much and just being around. She often explained that going to 6 or more births each month where women groaned their way through labor and fathers stood around feeling useless was just so tiring.
Certainly as a professional she has always been expected to update her education so she and her colleagues are always looking for things that they can learn. The idea that you insist your clients learn The Pink Kit skills themselves just bent her sideways.
She didn't know how to tell her clients this was not a choice. She matured over the years ... and this entry is not about her growth in her profession and how she has grown a skilled birthing population of her clients but you can see her statistics.
Anyway, years down the road she is always frustrated when new clients aren't already on board, but she understands that there is no social expectation that expectant families be skilled!
Although she is known in her local areas as a midwife who works with The PK, sometimes couples use the 'reasonable reasons why not' when being told to work through the PK. So here I am at the punch line.
The other day she told a story about going to a family's house for an ante-natal visit. The woman hadn't gotten into The Pink Kit at all ... 'I'm too busy at work. I take maternity leave at 38 weeks so I'll get into it then'.
Andrea said she just felt so frustrated yet again. She noticed there was lots of information about baby strollers on the table. She asked the woman how long she'd been looking through the information about strollers.
The woman responded 'Since I got pregnancy I've been going over each one to decide which to get'.
Andrea's response. 'You mean to tell me you've spent the time finding out about strollers but don't have time to teach yourself the birth skills and prepare your body to give birth?'
Andrea said the woman was shocked. That's how far we need to go ... a long, long way to change attitudes.
Here's how you can help:
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
I had a talk with a friend of mine who works as a midwife in New Zealand the other day. She requires (yes, requires) her clients to use (not just look at) The Pink Kit Package. Now there's a long story about our relationship that you need to know.
When many of us were having babies way back then (I lived in the US then) there was a movement to shift birth away from the modern maternity system into a direct entry midwifery care model. There was a belief that the statistics or high rates of 'medical intervention' was due to over aggressive doctors who were too keen to intervene and midwives would permit women to birth naturally without intervention.
I happened to immigrate to New Zealand in 1995, knowing absolutely nothing about birth politics in that country. Since I've never been involved with the 'politics' surrounding birth I didn't investigate either.
Certainly from the 1970s when The Pink Kit was evolving there were many families who also hired midwives and had home births. Was there fewer 'natural' births? Yes and no. There was much fewer standards of care that included some assessments, monitoring and procedures yet there were not more women who knew how to labor well or men who knew how to help the woman manage well. And there certainly were many problems unseen that then required women to head to hospital.
Over the years I've heard tens of thousands of stories about childbirth ... many from women planning, attempting and having home births as well as those who birthed in hospital with midwifery care as well as more conventional hospital + obstetrician. Just having a home birth or working with a midwife does not change either 'outcomes' nor how women feel about how they coped with the experience.
Having a home birth and working with a midwife does change how women feel about their surroundings and the attention they receive during pregnancy ... although not always at the birth ... nor always after the birth. Most women love having a midwife during pregnancy. A significant number are disappointed with the relationship during the birth or after the birth.
However, this entry is not about home births or midwives ... it's about the New Zealand midwife and her relationship to The Pink Kit and her clients.
When I arrived in NZ in 1995, women who work as midwives had become Lead Maternity Carers in 1990. There was great hope in the midwifery community that this change would create more natural births ... preferably at home. When I arrived the hope was high.
However, by 2000 the c/s rate had almost doubled to 28% or greater and home births were rare. New Zealand midwives were not interested in the concept of growing a skilled birthing population. They strongly advocated, as they do today, that birth is natural and women don't need to be taught how to birth. This is 180 degrees from the concept of The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better® skills that have been used by multitudes of expectant families because they believed they should be skilled!
My friend, A ..., finally became involved with The PK ... mostly because she was totally exhausted by seeing so many expectant parents just not have a clue, rely on her too much and just being around. She often explained that going to 6 or more births each month where women groaned their way through labor and fathers stood around feeling useless was just so tiring.
Certainly as a professional she has always been expected to update her education so she and her colleagues are always looking for things that they can learn. The idea that you insist your clients learn The Pink Kit skills themselves just bent her sideways.
She didn't know how to tell her clients this was not a choice. She matured over the years ... and this entry is not about her growth in her profession and how she has grown a skilled birthing population of her clients but you can see her statistics.
Anyway, years down the road she is always frustrated when new clients aren't already on board, but she understands that there is no social expectation that expectant families be skilled!
Although she is known in her local areas as a midwife who works with The PK, sometimes couples use the 'reasonable reasons why not' when being told to work through the PK. So here I am at the punch line.
The other day she told a story about going to a family's house for an ante-natal visit. The woman hadn't gotten into The Pink Kit at all ... 'I'm too busy at work. I take maternity leave at 38 weeks so I'll get into it then'.
Andrea said she just felt so frustrated yet again. She noticed there was lots of information about baby strollers on the table. She asked the woman how long she'd been looking through the information about strollers.
The woman responded 'Since I got pregnancy I've been going over each one to decide which to get'.
Andrea's response. 'You mean to tell me you've spent the time finding out about strollers but don't have time to teach yourself the birth skills and prepare your body to give birth?'
Andrea said the woman was shocked. That's how far we need to go ... a long, long way to change attitudes.
Here's how you can help:
- Donate Look at the bottom of the right menu
- Editing
- Lay-out
- Design
- Illustration
- Computer animation
- Publishing
- Translation
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
Saturday, 12 December 2009
What exactly is the Recognition Effect?
12 December 2009
I was watching Dr. Phil today and he was talking to the Me Generation ... kids and parents who gave their children everything and now the kids feel 'entitled' but don't want to work for anything.
He talked about how good it feels when a person can see themselves doing a task well, knowing they have the skills to do the task.
That is the recognition effect ... knowing you know how-to.
This is the gift Common Knowledge Trust wants to give expectant parents ... the skills to know how to help their baby be born.
Won't it be wonderful when every mother and father-to-be can learn the skills, watch themselves using the skills to prepare the pregnant body to give birth then seeing themselves using skills during the birth? Won't it be wonderful when all expectant parents can watch themselves with pride during this phenomenal time of life?
You can help achieve this because it was not something our generation achieved!
Here's how you can help:
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
I was watching Dr. Phil today and he was talking to the Me Generation ... kids and parents who gave their children everything and now the kids feel 'entitled' but don't want to work for anything.
He talked about how good it feels when a person can see themselves doing a task well, knowing they have the skills to do the task.
That is the recognition effect ... knowing you know how-to.
This is the gift Common Knowledge Trust wants to give expectant parents ... the skills to know how to help their baby be born.
Won't it be wonderful when every mother and father-to-be can learn the skills, watch themselves using the skills to prepare the pregnant body to give birth then seeing themselves using skills during the birth? Won't it be wonderful when all expectant parents can watch themselves with pride during this phenomenal time of life?
You can help achieve this because it was not something our generation achieved!
Here's how you can help:
- Donate Look at the bottom of the right menu
- Editing
- Lay-out
- Design
- Illustration
- Computer animation
- Publishing
- Translation
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
Tuesday, 8 December 2009
One of Common Knowledge Trust's thoughts
8/12/2009
One trustee of Common Knowledge Trust answered a question that I continue to pose ... 'Why is there so much resistance to the concept of The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better®
This is her response. She has 3 Pink Kit babies out of 4 kids. She's a woman of deep faith and supports the efforts of CKT because of the universal skills found in The Pink Kit.
She sent me this Dec 2, 2009 in response to the email I sent her about this blog, my continued frustration and curiosity as to 'what needs to be said' in order to change the 'don't know there is a need to know'. There is SO much resistance ... but actually we don't call it 'resistance' so much as 'reasonable reasons why not.'
There is a huge difference between 'resistance' which usually comes from knowing something but choosing not to ... resistance is natural. However, if a person doesn't even know they need to know then they don't have any interest in knowing or they believe it's just a belief or they believe it's a repetition of whatever is already known ... in other words ... 'reasonable reasons why not'.
If we get past the 'don't know there's a need to know' and can get to 'ok there's a need to know but what do I need to do' then a new layer of 'reasonable reasons why not' come into play.
Below is what this woman who had one baby not knowing she needed to know. Found the skills one week before her 2nd baby and totally invested time and energy to learn the skills with her husband because she realized that this was the 'missing' information she sort of knew was missing but never found so decided she wasn't right and all there was to know was what was already known.
She knew these skills filled that place inside 'is there something missing?'
'You must remember that our market (pregnant people) are the most distracted/self consumed people on planet earth around their baby having time. Getting their attention, from a distance, even with birth information is difficult aye. I still think the biggest obstacle to this information is that people want to be looked after, paid attention to as someone special. To take ownership of our entire birth process (which is what we are advocating) eliminates that attention that so many need and so we find only a few. I know that from my experience it was this attention that took away my power, I wanted to be free of it, take ownership of my childrens births and so I embraced the birthing knowledge in the Pink kit.
During the rehash (This is the re-doing of the resource we hope you will help us with) that C. and I did, we broke down the information/skills into bite sizes that people could choose when they needed, or at a pace that they could cope with. It was mainly about the processing of information at a managable rate in what ever time people have available to them before their child is born.
There is a lot of mention of how they will feel or what the outcome of taking in or integrating this knowledge will do for them. ie ownership, being proud of the way we managed our birth.
Question; Does the independence produced by the taking in and use of this knowledge leave people feeling afraid on a level they are not conscious of?
Do people on a subconscious level interpret the taking full ownership of ones birth as meaning there will be an absence of attention/love, care and nurturing from many outside sources (other people)?
Maybe we need stepping stones of another kind for people to travel over, stepping stones.
I can talk about and talk about The Pink Kit, the most forcefull thing I say these days to any pregnant people is "Have you heard of the pink kit" Yes or No. I then say "www.birthingbetter. go have a look, there s everything you need to know about getting you baby out...and more'.
Interesting that one of the 'reasonable reasons why not' that will come from reading the above letter is the phrase 'taking full ownership of one's birth' .... To too many people that phrase is interpreted as 'do the birth myself ... NO WAY'.
This is why we know that people don't even know they need to know and that knowing isn't about 'doing the birth yourself' or about any type of birth ... it's about the fact that you are pregnant and will give birth therefore as a parent-to-be you need to work with your baby as it works to be born.
Here's how you can help:
Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
One trustee of Common Knowledge Trust answered a question that I continue to pose ... 'Why is there so much resistance to the concept of The Pink Kit Method For Birthing Better®
This is her response. She has 3 Pink Kit babies out of 4 kids. She's a woman of deep faith and supports the efforts of CKT because of the universal skills found in The Pink Kit.
She sent me this Dec 2, 2009 in response to the email I sent her about this blog, my continued frustration and curiosity as to 'what needs to be said' in order to change the 'don't know there is a need to know'. There is SO much resistance ... but actually we don't call it 'resistance' so much as 'reasonable reasons why not.'
There is a huge difference between 'resistance' which usually comes from knowing something but choosing not to ... resistance is natural. However, if a person doesn't even know they need to know then they don't have any interest in knowing or they believe it's just a belief or they believe it's a repetition of whatever is already known ... in other words ... 'reasonable reasons why not'.
If we get past the 'don't know there's a need to know' and can get to 'ok there's a need to know but what do I need to do' then a new layer of 'reasonable reasons why not' come into play.
Below is what this woman who had one baby not knowing she needed to know. Found the skills one week before her 2nd baby and totally invested time and energy to learn the skills with her husband because she realized that this was the 'missing' information she sort of knew was missing but never found so decided she wasn't right and all there was to know was what was already known.
She knew these skills filled that place inside 'is there something missing?'
'You must remember that our market (pregnant people) are the most distracted/self consumed people on planet earth around their baby having time. Getting their attention, from a distance, even with birth information is difficult aye. I still think the biggest obstacle to this information is that people want to be looked after, paid attention to as someone special. To take ownership of our entire birth process (which is what we are advocating) eliminates that attention that so many need and so we find only a few. I know that from my experience it was this attention that took away my power, I wanted to be free of it, take ownership of my childrens births and so I embraced the birthing knowledge in the Pink kit.
During the rehash (This is the re-doing of the resource we hope you will help us with) that C. and I did, we broke down the information/skills into bite sizes that people could choose when they needed, or at a pace that they could cope with. It was mainly about the processing of information at a managable rate in what ever time people have available to them before their child is born.
There is a lot of mention of how they will feel or what the outcome of taking in or integrating this knowledge will do for them. ie ownership, being proud of the way we managed our birth.
Question; Does the independence produced by the taking in and use of this knowledge leave people feeling afraid on a level they are not conscious of?
Do people on a subconscious level interpret the taking full ownership of ones birth as meaning there will be an absence of attention/love, care and nurturing from many outside sources (other people)?
Maybe we need stepping stones of another kind for people to travel over, stepping stones.
I can talk about and talk about The Pink Kit, the most forcefull thing I say these days to any pregnant people is "Have you heard of the pink kit" Yes or No. I then say "www.birthingbetter. go have a look, there s everything you need to know about getting you baby out...and more'.
Interesting that one of the 'reasonable reasons why not' that will come from reading the above letter is the phrase 'taking full ownership of one's birth' .... To too many people that phrase is interpreted as 'do the birth myself ... NO WAY'.
This is why we know that people don't even know they need to know and that knowing isn't about 'doing the birth yourself' or about any type of birth ... it's about the fact that you are pregnant and will give birth therefore as a parent-to-be you need to work with your baby as it works to be born.
Here's how you can help:
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Find out more about our New Zealand registered charitable Trust, Common Knowledge
Go right to and purchase a Pink Kit Package for someone you know and love who is pregnant
http://thepinkkitforpositivebirth.blogspot.com
http://twitter.com/PinKitPregnancy
http://expectantfathers.blogspot.com/
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